Many conversations start with the question of “How are you?” And most people reply with a lie that is short and simple “I’m fine”. In reality, You’re everything else but… Fine!
This is such a common occurrence for people struggling through mental health problems or chronic illnesses. It’s so much easier to just say, “I’m fine” than having to open up and release your true feelings. The type of feelings that eat at you on a daily basis, the ones that feel like they’re impossible to let out. Chronic illnesses and mental illnesses tend to go hand in hand, you can only deal with so much before you start getting depressed. The words are so hard to get out because we live in a society where a lot of people ultimately believes that someone is weak, seeking attention, and/or make cruel judgements on those who suffer from mental illness. This is why so many resort to suicide, you can only be silenced and suffer in pain for so long! Everyone deserves someone to talk to. Now, I’m not saying to vent out your whole life story to everyone you meet. I’m only saying that maybe if mental illness was more accepted as a real issue and not something that you can just “get over” whenever you want to than more people would be alive today.
Always be kind to others, you never really know what kind of battles they go through alone.
For everyone who has been down this road or is going through it now, please know that you are loved, wanted, and there is always someone there that you can talk to. That person is me! I will help those who need it, in any way possible.
You have to make it through the dark times to get to the light!
If you’re having trouble talking to friends or family members about what’s going on, please consider counseling. I never thought me telling my emotional struggles to someone (that I don’t even know) would ever be beneficial. To my surprise, it did help a lot. If it’s not for you personally than that’s okay too! Expressing your feelings in a journal is a more personal and private way of getting it out, if talking about it isn’t doing much for you.
There are some natural remedies you could try that have helped me get through hard times while dealing with depression and anxiety. I always try to keep my mind busy now and that has really worked wonders for me.
- Try to relax: Taking a warm bubble bath with music has always helped ease my mind.
- Music: Listening to songs that are upbeat and lifting seem to also help when I’m down.
- Reading: Reading has helped me a lot at times. Focusing on something else to distract my mind.
- Writing: This is especially a good technique for those who have trouble verbally venting their feelings. You can use a journal to release your personal feelings or even write blogs!
- Bananas: I’ve read that eating Bananas tend to boost serotonin levels. Serotonin is thought to be responsible for regulating sleep, moods, and the thought process. It’s worth a try!
- Try to focus on the positive: This has helped me a lot! While, it’s not easy to just forget about what’s going wrong in life, thinking about what went right is very important. I always try to remind myself that things could always be worse and to remind myself there’s always something to be grateful for.
Those were just a few ideas of things that could help ease the depression and elevate your mood. It may not work for everyone but I have personally found them helpful. So, I figured it’s worth a try for anyone else.
Also, to those of you that know someone going through mental illness please always be there for them, even it seems as if they’re pushing you away (which is one major sign of it). Just talking to them could save their life. Just so they know someone actually cares!
No one wants to be depressed or to deal with such a serious illness that alters everything about you. Please don’t ever see it as attention seeking behavior, they just need a friend and need to know someone cares. It takes minimal effort to be a decent person and talk to those who need it. To you it may be such a simple gesture but to them, it may mean the world. Please love and accept your friends and family that go through such difficult times.
If you or anyone you know are having suicidal thoughts because there’s no one to talk to or are going through hard times. Please think about reaching out to the “National Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1800-273-8255”. That hotline is open 24 hours in the US.